Questions

Sarah and David made a Christmas craft...
they had lots of fun together!

Adoption. That one word can stir many different emotions and responses with people. Before we adopted I was intrigued and had lots of questions. I’ll admit it I was a little scared. When God made it clear we were to adopt and we obeyed I was excited, but I still had MANY questions. Now that we are in the post adoption stage I still have many questions, although different. Now they are just full of parenting questions. Like is this behavior because of past experiences or purely just disobedience? Or should I be firm in this moment or over look the behavior?

I took a walk today just to clear my head with all the frustration I was feeling over disobedience. During my walk I came to the conclusion that with our younger children we are just still in the simple obedience stage. What I mean is when I say don’t touch the light switches, quiet during quiet time, no running in the house, and other little things. A lot comes with age. My adopted children are taking longer to mature through many stages and this is one of them. They must learn to trust me to obey me. They need to learn that when I say something I mean it for their good. This will take time and a lot of consistence.

Yes, it was good for me today to see even though Beth is 6 and David is 4 that we are still in the simple obedience stage. This week has been challenging with so many episodes of disobedience. I pray soon they graduate to obedience without challenge and from blatantly disobeying me. Then we can jump into the “obey NOW stage”…I think I am still in that stage at times in my walk with God. I end up obeying, but sometimes it takes me too long to do it.

I know that questions will still come. More than I did with my birth children and different ones than them too! God is constant, God has all the answers! It is amazing how God gives to me those mother intuitions with children I did not birth. How I can decipher when someone lies is from God. How I know when Beth is trying to manipulate someone into doing her desires is only from God. With God all things are possible and to my amazement at times…for my good!